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I've been meaning to share this little incident with you that happened a couple of weeks ago, and I'd love to know your thoughts.
I received a Natural Lounge Style Card from Angel of TheNaturalLounge.com (one of my favourite and first UK blogs for natural hair that I ever came across) a couple of months ago at Curls Unleashed party.
Natural Lounge Style Cards are simply a way of offering a compliment and encouragement to other ladies you see rocking their natural hair with style. The idea is to pass the positivity on (so you're not allowed to keep the card.)
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Personally I think they're a great way to give someone a positive boost. However, when I tried to pass on the positivity to a teenager out shopping with her friends, who all had weaves or relaxed hair, I think I inadvertently caused offence.
I'd seen the group of girls who were probably in their mid teens, and she was the only one who was natural. Her hair was styled in a kind of quiff at the front and puff at the back and she looked very "en trend". In my opinion she was the perfect recipient of the style card.
I went and gave it to her, but as I walked away I heard the stereotypical-tone of unnecessary youthful attitude from one of her friends who exclaimed:
"Thats Rude! So what, am I not beautiful?"
I hadn't prepared myself for the fact that me complimenting one person could be taken as an insult to another. I tweeted about it at the time because I felt the friend with the attitude should have been supportive of the fact that her friend was receiving a compliment, instead of criticising the gesture.
Regardless of hair type I think people should celebrate each other more often.
What do you think?
If your friend received a compliment, would you be pleased for her or offended that it wasn't you?
